Realistic and satirical view on Marriage

I would like to bring in this article some of personal thoughts sharing my perception on some realistic and satirical view on Marriage.

Marriage is a social arrangement and recognition of two individuals taking the oath of commitment of living together. Marriage is also looked upon as a union of two individuals who live in a committed relationship. Marriage is recognized as a social necessity for human procreation, survival and building the chain of family. Marriage is a beautiful way of establishing a healthy harmonious living relationship between two individuals.

In earlier ancient societies, monogamy and polygamy were well established and practiced without any social stigma. Greed, misuse, sufferings over years could have led societies to set the norms of monogamy as acceptable practice.

In recent modern times, polygamy has replaced by individuals (Singles) who indulge in trying out a living relationship with one or more partners before tying the knot of marriage. The trend you see mostly in western countries individuals marry at their late 30’s or 40’s. Somewhere there is a fear in the mindset that getting married is getting in to entanglement.

Successful marriage is how well one can juggle with your partner. Marriage fails if one does not know how to juggle their differences due to compatibility issues and so forth. If marriage does not work after all efforts, divorce is a good way to settle scores and depart.

In the western countries, there are Laws to protect married couples from distrusting partners, divorce settlement has become costly, and these are the reasons why folks do not want to get married unless they get to know each other very well and feel safe about their partner. Rich, famous industrialists and celebrities have multiple marriages and can afford divorce and costly lawsuits.In India, the cultural trend predominantly was arranged marriage through horoscope match making and Indian horoscope match making is a wonderful science for couple compatibility test. Once the compatibility is established, the couples decide to meet each other and exercise the discretion on tying the nuptial knot. In this setup, one learns to accept the other person and due to compatibility success, couples have lived happily married life. In Modern times due to cultural change, horoscope match making is looked upon as superstitious and the Indian Men and Women take a conscious informed decision meeting each other and even try a live in relationship before marriage. It works as long as one learns to juggle well with your partner.

Married couples do go through a phase of depression. The husband imagines his wife should be hourly sexy figure instead she is sourly stout. The wife imagines her husband to be a sexy hunk instead, he sulks. Only when you have some preconceived notion that this person has to be your way there is suffering. Lust is only in the physical nature. If one says, one is in a relationship of marriage with their partner for life long it is more or less a relationship of lust, as lust can only be in the physical and limited. Love is in the unboundedness.

Sexual urge and associated pleasure is just a biological device for self-procreation and survival in this planet. Once one learns to accept the fact of biological desire of sexual urge then freedom is the only way. The social stigma associated with sexual urge weans away. If men were given all the beautiful women and women were given all the handsome men still there would a state of discontentment. They would not be completely satisfied. Satisfaction will be there for a moment but the ugly human nature will begin tormenting. Therefore, in spiritual term Sex means Union or Yoga. Instead of seeking lusty relationship seek love to blossom within you. Learn to kindle the dormant kundalini energies (Sex energies) in your system (base chakra). Of course, one will need the grace of the Guru to guide and provide the necessary roadmap tools and techniques. Once you know the technique of channeling your life energies being ecstatic and blissful will be order of every moment of your life. Every cell in your body will become orgasmic, ecstatic or blissful.

My take on marriage is why should one live in bondage of a life long marriage relationship. Yes, I strongly believe marriage as a beautiful way to be involved in a committed relationship. One can live in commitment and yet be in love with the entire existence. Love is not in the physical. Love is not measured in moments of time, but in timeless moments. Human nature is dubious. One nature is towards creating physical boundaries and other nature is to break the barrier towards unboundedness. One can live in a committed involved relationship with every being in this planet. When we start building boundaries suffering is obvious. When one learns to accept the very nature of human being, suffering is eliminated in the process, freedom is only the way. Why are we all suffering our very freedom?

Marriage can lead to happy, blissful relationship but still has its limitation since we have to juggle well to be making the other person happy. If each one of learn the method to be in Union with the divine, one can be blissfully happy without the need for lusty relationship.

To be in acceptance with every being in this planet one has to be in complete acceptance of oneself. Only when we learn the method to take control of our Body, Mind, Emotions and Life energies, acceptance to people and life situations can happen. Becoming spiritual is a step towards freedom. The method, techniques and tools are there in form of Yoga. Inner Engineering is a wonderful tool. Let it happen to everyone in this planet and let love blossom and life can become only one way, being blissful.